Out of Curiosity

i was exhaling a cloud of smoke and listening to Clapton play "Tears in Heaven" when i started wondering. so i hit next on winamp (it's got 48.6 gigs on shuffle right now) cause i was tired of how slow that song is and decided to wonder my wondering to the teeny tiny audience which is the internet. i'm referring, of course, to that portion of the internet which pays attention to me.
so what i was wondering is, how does the whole heaven thing treat the issue of loved ones?
i'm thinking here specificly of christianity, about which i know very little, except that it's mostly expressed in terms of absolutes. heaven is absolutely awesome, for example, and hell is absolutely lame. god's not just good, he defines it, and so on. so what i'm wondering, specificly, is what happens when people who love each other end up sent to different places? can heaven really be perfect for eternity when you know the love of your (fleeting) life is roasting in hell? or maybe you don't believe in hell. i hear some people believe in one but not the other. i don't know what the alternative to heaven is in that case, but apparently not everyone gets in or there'd be no reason not to sin. anyway, maybe it's better just to ask how heaven can be so great if you miss your guy/girl, and if you don't miss them, then why not?
if the internet can't tell me (or doesn't bother to) i guess i can ask Cargill. politics and religion, eech. oh well. could be sex and death.